Building relationship and trust from a perfect stranger is not an easy task as peeling banana.Maintaining these new found relationship or friendship can be difficult though and getting to know someone well over the Internet and creating a lasting friendship is a hard task.They say, people with common interests attract, but for me, it wasn't our sameness that attracts each other, but the difference that push two people in love to get interested to knowing each other.Unlike poles attract each other and maybe few of conflicting interests do the trick.There is no overnight recipe to great friendship. In my experience, i just open myself as a book and let him read. Reading myself made him appreciate and anxious to read one page to another. Reading the whole book shouldn't be in a hurry.It is a process and takes its own sweet time. However, it is worth going through that process and being rewarded with a lifetime friend.Eventually that will be the start of the evolution of love- from friendship to real love.
There had been innumerable comments and questions with regards to the survival of long distance relationship. It can't be denied that the outbreak of technology played a great character in communication, the edge to connect people from different places and races all over the world. Thus, this so called "love over the net" sprouted like mushrooms worldwide. Well, i leave that to you, if you believe that there can be real love from the so called relationship over the net.
Let's face the reality that there were successful marriages that started from internet. Their relationship has been tested through times and the pledge of commitment is engraved in a stone that even the crash of heavy rain wouldn't disfigure love. It would only make love grow each day as they hurdle problems together. That i wouldn't hesitate to say " till death do us part" if i will know and feel that he is the man whom i would love to be with for the rest of my life, regardless of where our relationship had started. I know that the real covenant is in our hearts. "not, from texting, not from net, but from the heart.
So, now.. a piece of thought.. Love is everywhere.
Love is every man`s fundamental innate vocation. To be loved is every man`s right. This is part of his/ her dignity as a human being. To love is every man`s calling.Yes! i agree that real love can be developed in chatting or SMS in some good aspects. Lovers over the net or cam can understand their soon to be partners in life, they just feel okay and great if they see each other on cam. Love is just about waiting and sacrificing. Waiting because you need to wait for a right time and place. You need to set plans where to meet for you to bond together and know each other better. Sacrificing because you need to put limits and boundaries for your love to grow deeper and deeper. Learn to situate things which are barriers in your relationship. But what is the underlying motivation for this ACCEPTANCE and UNDERSTANDING within the deepest chamber of our hearts (for all and most of all for long distance relationships).
ReplyDelete"real covenant is in our hearts not, from texting, not from net, but from the heart." - a statement that say's it all. it may be ironic and contradicting in some point to what the above article is trying to imply but it gives meaning of what real love is and how it blooms out of nothing. Several people may think that getting into a relationship with a perfect stranger at once is not lasting. Yet, the way it is foregrounded is what makes it extraordinary!
ReplyDeleteThere may be different ways in creating a lasting relationship but only that two individuals involve can tell how love work out for them. It is not the ways that matter but the thought that somehow it is worth it!
making oneself committed to any individual takes a lot of time to think of. it is a decision that may change ones perspective in life. that may lead him to an un-ending expectation!