Beyond Silence

     Here I am again excited to write another masterpiece of my mind. I would like to discuss further approximating what you hear in silence. How important it is. Sometimes, we don’t appreciate it, but there’s a lot of unspoken treasure with it. 

When you are in love, it is  in the heart, that even when you have thousand of words to say, still you can’t find the right word to magnify the every minute details of reason of how you felt. But it’s in silence where you listen attentively to your partner’s eyes. According to Dr. Hyle, some of the most beautiful expression of love are expressed in silence. Well I am a person who talks a lot but silence for me is important when I am too much full of thoughts and emotions, because when one is in love, there’s only 3 words to summarize all, that’s “I love you”. The loving heart exudes love in silence. Silence between friends and lover’s says that one’s presence is enough. There are thousands of places that one could choose, but if he chooses to be with you from all other places, and from all other people, even his silence speaks volumes of tender expressions of love. In such silent moments in private sanctuaries one’s silence says “ your presence is enough. When one is dismayed and disappointed, by just merely holding each others hands in silence is enough. It is like saying “ we will be okay”. True love need not to be confirmed daily but it is perennially spoken and demonstrated in silence of assurance. When you keep asking “ do you love me? It is somehow, partly, asking because you are not convinced so well.

When you care, be it in friendship or romantic attachments, the kind of silence says something else. You don’t have to gain an assurance by words because assurance is shown so well through actions. True friendship need not be reconfirmed daily, because even when you are far from each other, the silence you both experience is a thriving factor of needing each other. True relationship does not everyday, every week, every month. Because when God places in the heart of one true love, one true friendship for another, peace , assurance and security is offered-these are spoken is silence.

When we are angry, even though, it won’t seem like obviously simple, silence is needed. But let’s clear the distinction between anger, hurt or irritated. In some level they have common ground but they different. Anger is a common to everybody. We feel hurt or irritated when someone of something obstructs our desires. In its technical sense, anger comes in when one has the desire “to get even with” – that is to take revenge- the cause of the hurt or irritation. When adrenaline pumps to your bloodstream, when your heart rate jumps, when your blood pressure surges, you need to listen to your veins shaking in anger in order to control yourself. Silencing is self-mastery during this time. When you don’t control your emotion, your horn grows, you give a dirty look, but at least you control the scenario by preventing the fight. That’s why silence is important. There are far better ways to cope with hurt and insult other than anger. Because in reality, anger itself acts like poison to your heart that ultimately degrades the quality of your life as much as it hurts life of another person.

      Many expression of love, gratitude and affection are always offered, but there are significant silence that are left unappreciated, but they made up strong relationships. The silence of a quite meal ( like in Betania retreat house, where I only hear the sound of chinawares) is acknowledging God’s bounty, the silence of a busy partner who is a teacher, computing grades while the husband suddenly came with a glass of milk is enough, the silence that is broken by only the twinkle of an eye, the touch of an arm, the squeeze of a hand is more than words. We are lucky! Thanks God that in these noisy and chaos world, God design another way to express our emotion in silence.